Friends First and Not Target

by Daniel Chiam

Veni, Vidi, Vici - I came, I saw, I conquered. That my friend, is the typical men's way of getting a girlfriend. I do not like to generalize, so I'll say it applied to most of the men out there. Men are goal oriented. They see what they want, and do everything in their power to try and get what they want.

The problem always occurred after men gets what they wanted. She is now my girlfriend and what comes after that? Communications break down, getting distance with each other, that feeling that was once there is no longer there, yada yada yada... Men move on with a new goal in life :D

I might be wrong and I most probably be right for the most part. Your thoughts is very much appreciated.

It's not about right or wrong but it's just not what I preferred. I've learned from experience and from my environment, relationship just doesn't function that way. So right now, this is what I much preferred to do.

First, make friends. Do not approach or talk to a girl with the thought of 'she is going to be my girlfriend' or 'this is my target' in mind. Your initial thought should be 'I wish to be friend with her'. Remember this guys, your wife IS your best friend. If you both can't start right as a friend, don't think too far about starting an intimate relationship with her.

Since we are trying to make friends, don't limit yourself with only one friend. Get to know more people and be friends with them. There is nothing to lose here, its all a win-win situation, rather than you pick a target, failed and get rejected or you pick a target, success and still failed at the end. The odds for broken heart is rather higher.

I always believe that to start a relationship right, is to start a genuine friendship first. Not be friend because I-want-to-court-you kind of friendship, but a genuine friend friendship. 

Okay, its going to be a long post. So I'm going to break it down in parts and post the other one on Monday, haha. Have a great weekend people! Go and make more friends!

Part II: Communications before Feelings

"Seize the day, Caper Diem"

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Relationship is like a Bank Account

by Daniel Chiam

I still remember what Dr. Guy Peh talks about relationship - you need to treat it like a bank account! I hope you all know how does a bank account works, because it's how relationship works also.

Before you can open a bank account, you first need to deposit a minimal amount of money into it first. Then only you will be able to have a bank account that you can deposit more money into it, and start withdrawing money from it also. You can put in as much money as you want, but your maximum withdrawal is only as much as what you have in your bank account. 

Same theory applied in relationship. Before you wanted to start a relationship with anyone, you must first put in a minimum deposit into that someone's life. Help them with their studies/works, phone calls, birthday wishes, gift and et cetera. The main reason for the deposit is for you to be apart of that someone's life.

Once your deposit is being accepted, then only the relationship will start to work both ways. You can't expect to make a withdrawal without first putting some money in your bank account right? Now I'm not just referring to a boy and girl relationship, but this is something that is practical for all sorts of relationship.

Among colleagues, friends, parents and children, future boyfriend or girlfriend, master and pet and et cetera. So if you always wonder why isn't your bank account work properly, perhaps you should first start to invest some money into it today!

"Seize the day, Caper Diem"

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Meeples - European Board Game Cafe @ SS15, Subang Jaya

I know I seldom travel, and I don't have a lot of places to introduce or to recommend in room8five, but this one, I just have to let you all know about it!

Meeples is the name of the shop. Different kind of fun is what they offer. Forget about the old snakes and ladders, monopoly and chess! They have hundreds (maybe even thousands) of board games for you to try out and to fall in love!

You will get to actually interact among players, tickle your brains a lil' bit and some games are just there for plain old fun and lots of laughter. There was never once I visited the place and it was as quiet as the library. People are just there to have pure funnest!  

My verdict - Meeples is absolutely the best place to be if you are looking for a real good time with family and friends. Spend that quality time with them over a game, and see them talk and laugh. It's truly is a best place for bonding in today's city life. 

The Settlers of Catan - My utmost favorite game!

Address:

64-1, Jalan SS15/4D, 

47500 Subang Jaya, 

Selangor, Malaysia

Email: info@meeples.com.my

Phone: 03 - 5633 8033

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Yours only:

Daniel Chiam from room8five

The Most Limited Offer from Groupon

My friend showed me this special deal today in Groupon Malaysia, and this guy - Loke Hing Seong is really a genius! Who have ever thought about proposing through a coupon site?! Mei Chen, please just say 'Yes' to the guy.

I posted about Becoming Mr. Romantic back in early June, and ever since then I already decided that my proposal to my future wife-to-be will not just be an ordinary proposal - in a fine dinning restaurant, take out the ring from the pocket, on one bended knee and pop the magical question, will you marry me?

I really think I can do better than that, then again, don't keep the hopes too high. It's ain't cheap to get married these days. Especially in KL (depends on who is my wife-to-be). Well, if my guy boss is still here, I bet he will said "don't dream about getting married first, you better get yourself a girlfriend first".

Haha, I'm just happy seeing guys that's actually put in effort in their relationship. It really shows how much the girl means to them.

To all my male visitor who is currently in a relationship and planned to get married in the near future, my question to you is - What's your plan?

Yours only:

Daniel Chiam from room8five

How Do You Wake Up Early?

This is the problem that I have been having for quite sometimes now. I couldn't make it a habit to wake up early anymore! The earliest I could wake up on a weekdays is 8am (minus snoozing the alarm), and 9am on weekend.

I wanted to make it a habit to wake up at 6 or 7 in the morning, so that I could go for a jog or do my workout in the morning, but until today, I have failed to do so. No matter how early I went to bed at night, the result is still the same.

I still remember when I first came to KL for study and in my first month, I always wake up as early as 6 or 7 in the morning. I will boil some hot water, make myself a cup of coffee, sit at the balcony of my apartment and enjoy the morning scenery.

Thanks to the last minute of burning midnight oil for assignments, DOTA, online games, 24 hours mamak and late night movie, I began to go to bed very late (and sometimes sleepless), and starts waking up late too. Since then it became a habit and waking up early is always a struggle for me.

So how did you all do it? Waking up early. I desperately need to learn because I've always been late to the office, tho its just around 15-20 minutes walk from my house and my work start at 9am. Haha, I know right...

Do let me know your suggestions. You can help change my life today, haha =)

Yours only:

Daniel Chiam from room8five